You'll need to think about which color gem you'd like. The three are. Red, Yellow, and Green.
Red's do as they are told, all the time, every time, they do not ask what they can do, they get told what they can do, when they can do it, and who they can do it with.
Yellow's ask if they can do something, every time, all the time.
Green's can come and go, and do as they please in between. But when called for, or in the dungeons, they're treated as though they are red's.
You also need to understand that when your collar lights up, it's yes daddy, from that point until dismissed. After which, you can do as you please. If I say you're fucking one of my daughters, that's what you're doing. If I say you're getting on a fucking machine so I can watch your pussy get fucked for 3 hours, that's what you're doing. But again, once it's all over, you don't have to wait for me to tell you, you can go do something else you want to do. You can just go do it.